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Dependents

2- & 4-Legged Dependents

Death detail planning can be done at any stage of life, and the necessities for this part of the planning will change, as your life changes. Thus, dependents that need to be taken care of in the event of your passing will vary. 


What does not vary is that the dependents will need someone to step in immediately after your death to ensure that care for your loved ones continues without a gap.

   

You will need to discuss and plan with your lawyer to ensure that funds are available after your death to continue to provide for these dependents, including, but not limited to:

  • Housing - group home and/or nursing home or assisted living
  • Medical care
  • Schooling
  • Medicare insurance and medical needs
  • External activities
  • Dietary needs


All of this will need to continue as seamlessly as possible at your death. And needs to be handled with a great deal of compassion, patience, and love.

Pets

Minor Children

Transition Considerations

In the event that you and your spouse die simultaneously, or you are a single parent, your minor children will need to go to a warm and loving caregiver.  If your parents are still alive, it may be them. Or it may be one of their godparents or one of your siblings.


This decision is probably the most important of all. Prior to establishing these instructions as part of any legal document:

  • Discuss this with the person/persons whom you would choose to assume this responsibility
  • If they are uncertain, or state that they are not comfortable with this responsibility, move to your second choice. DO NOT try and force them into a position with which      they are not comfortable. It is simply NOT in the best interests of your child(ren)
  • Once you have reached an agreement with someone, be sure that their contact details are provided to your lawyer and included in your will, to avoid arguments over this issue, when the come comes
  • Discuss your decision with any relatives or other friends, who might have expected to be included in this decision to further minimize any issues with your decisions 

  

Their teachers and/or other caregivers will also need to be notified of your passing, as the children will be out of school, and will not be following their normal schedules. In your end of life document, please include:

  • Their teachers' names and the name(s) of the school they attend, along with the relevant contact information
  • Any afterschool caregiver's name and contact details


The children will need to resume their normal schedules at some point. Ensure that you document their activities as completely as possible:

  • Are there medications that they regularly need to take? Where are these stored?
  • Who are their pediatricians/doctors?
  • What are the normal school transportation arrangements?
  • If their attendance is part time - which days and hours do they attend?
  • Are the children      involved in extracurricular activities - sports, music lessons, tutoring, college prep classes, etc.?
  • Who are their babysitters or other caregivers? Include names and contact details
  • What is their daily routine, especially after coming home from school? Homework? Play? Video gaming time? Exercise/play outside?
  • Are their limits to computer, television, and/or video gaming time?


The more information and details you can document, the more seamless the transition for both your children and those who will be taking care of them. 

Adult Dependent Children

Additional Considerations

For these children, adhering to routine is even more crucial. In addition to all the information above, please ensure that you leave information on:

  • Physical therapists/psychologists/psychiatrists/social worker names and contact details
  • Where their medication is stored and what the medication schedule is
  • Does he/she participate in a group home environment? If so, provide the details,      including frequency
  • Does he/she have a job?


At the time of your death, the guardian will need to reach out to the therapist or social worker to plan on the best way to explain your passing to this child and design a plan to help him/her adjust. 

Elderly Dependents

Additional Information

The baby boomers have become known as the "sandwich" generation, as not only do we have responsibility for our children, but as we age, many of us are responsible for our parents, or other elderly family members. You will need to leave instructions for their care after you depart, as much as you would for both minor children and dependent adult children. 


Quite often, their care may be assumed by other family members. Please do not make ANY assumptions about this. Discuss this with your family and confirm that an agreement has been reached as to the responsible person upon your demise, just as you would for minor or adult dependent children.


If you care for them in your home, in addition to all of the points above, you will need to leave instructions for:

  • Where will they go after your passing? To the home of the family member who will be assuming responsibility? To a nursing home or assisted living? A memory care      facility?
  • What and where are their medications?
  • Who are their doctors? Be sure to leave the names and contact details with your planning document
  • Outside activities - do they go to a senior care program during the week?
  • Where are their end of life instruction located, and who has access to them?


If they currently are cared for in an outside facility, you will need to go through the same process of agreeing responsibility for their well-being after your death. 


It is also critical that arrangements be made to cover the costs of this facility - either from your estate, a trust, or another family member. Please be sure to include contact details for your main liaison at the facility. As with adult dependent children, there may be a need to agree to a plan to discuss your death with them.

Four-Legged Dependents

With legs, wings, fins, or scales

Many of us have house pets (and, yes, some have fins, wings, two legs, no legs, and/or scales) who are also dependent on us. And some pets are not house pets - such as a horse.


They will need immediate care upon your demise. If you have not discussed their care with anyone prior to your death, the minimum part of your death planning needs to include the name(s) of the veterinarian who take care of them. If it is a pet that is boarded outside of your home, then be sure to leave that information in your planning document.


Additionally, leave details on:

  • If they need medications, and list which medications with the frequency and dosage.      Also, where the medications are kept (in the kitchen, in a drawer, etc.)
  • Is there a caregiver (dog walker or cat sitter) who can temporarily accept responsibility for them? Leave his/her contact information


In all the emotional chaos that will occur when you die, you do not want any of them to suffer due to being overlooked or forgotten. 

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